Saying 'I love you' after 3 days of knowing me, asking me to move in after 2 weeks
In the future - if this happens, it needs to end right away. There's no way anyone can love you after 3 days. Or that you'd be ready to move in after 2 weeks.
At this point, take anything you have of his and put it in a box, take it to his place, and get anything of yours back. Delete him from Facebook and other social media.
Take a friend with you when you go.
Be direct. Tell him that this relationship isn't what you need and that you don't want contact.
Telling him anything like, "Maybe we'll see each other around" or "I want to be friends," is just going to give him something to cling to.
Change any passwords he has access to, etc. etc.
Edit:
Didn't fully register this part:
I'm also not over my Ex boyfriend and I think I want to give things another go
Keep in mind that the same reasons things didn't work out the first time are often the same reasons they don't work out the second, third, fourth, etc.
It's okay to mourn the loss as long as you need to. It's certainly understandable to think, "Wow - compared to Overly Attached Boyfriend, this guy's wasn't so bad."
But give some thought to counseling to try to address:
- Why you dislike conflict and whether avoiding it is really best in the long run
- Why you'd continue spending time with someone who says they love you within days of meeting and suddenly wants to move in
- What lessons you've learned, and what you've learned about yourself after a 5 year relationship.
Good luck!
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